Relapses - and the Group

"An early fear was that of slips or relapses. At first nearly every alcoholic we approached began to slip, if indeed he sobered up at all. Others would stay dry six months or maybe a year and then take a skid. This was always a genuine catastrophe. We would all look at each other and say, 'Who next?' Today, though slips are a very serious difficulty, as a group we take them in stride. Fear has evaporated. Alcohol always threatens the individual, but we know that it cannot destroy the common welfare."

"It does not seem to pay to argue with 'slippers' about the proper method of getting dry. After all, why should people who are drinking tell people who are dry how it should be done? Just kid the boys along - ask them if they are having fun. If they are too noisy or troublesome, amiably keep out of their way." 

1. A.A. COMES OF AGE, P. 97
2. LETTER, 1942