I started a Web Site in 1999 when I came back into the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous. Tripod decided to block me a few years ago , so I stopped writing, posting. SO I decided to take the posts I had there and put them here. Plus new ones I found on the net and shares of my own. Take what you need and pass on the rest! Blessings ds♥

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Detaching with Love

Sometimes people we love do things we don't like or approve of. We react. They react. Before long, we're all reacting to each other, and the problem escalates.

  When do we detach? When we're hooked into a reaction of anger, fear, guilt, or shame? When we get hooked into power play-an attempt to control or force others to do something they don't want to do. When the way we're reacting isn't helping the other person or solving the problem. When the way we're reacting is hurting us.

  Often, it's time to detach when detachment appears to be the least likely, or possible, thing to do.

  The first step toward detachment is understanding that reacting and controlling don't help. The next step is getting peaceful-getting centered and restoring our balance.

  Take a walk.  Leave the rook.  Go to a meeting. Take a long, hot bath.  Call a friend.  Call on God (HP). Breathe deeply. Find peace. From that place of peace and centering will emerge an answer a solution.

                     Today  will surrender and trust that the answer is near.

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